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One of the biggest weaknesses of most people in relationships and in business is that they don’t listen… that means really listen. Listening is different from hearing. Hearing is a physical act that we do with our ears. Listening is a mental act that we do with our brains. Most people who fail to listen do it not because they are poor hearers.
Many factors contribute to a person’s poor listening behavior or habits. They include, but are not limited to:
• distractions in the environment
• the other person’s body language
• the history of the relationship
• unresolved issues between the two people
• lack of interest in the subject
• the pace of the other person’s dialogue
• limited vocabulary of either person
• personal unresolved issues with either person
• personal prejudices or judgments of either person
• personality style differences
Any or all of these can get in the way of a person getting or understanding your message. Observe the other person’s non-verbal messages while you’re talking to him/her. She’ll tell you, without a doubt, whether she’s listening to you or not. If there is any doubt if he’s listening, ask him a question in the middle of one of your sentences. If he doesn’t answer, is there any reason to continue with the rest of the message as you’re doing? Then you have the chance to reframe your thoughts, and try another approach.
To improve your listening skills:
• stay focused on the other person
• look for the theme of the message
• key into the major points
• control distractions
• stay in the present
• make lots of eye contact, and use responses such as, “I see,” “uh huh,” “Hmmm,” “Really,” etc.
• pay attention to those things that draw your attention away from the other person and the message
Improved listening will have a tremendous and positive impact on all of your relationships, whether business or personal. Listening to others is one of the greatest compliments you can pay them.
Let me know how you go, I’d love to hear from you… I mean “Listen” to you!
Well, here we are, 2 weeks till Christmas and you’re still not prepared…
I’ve put together a quick video for those of you who are feeling the pressures of the silly season, hope it helps you out;
If you have trouble viewing the above, go to http://www.EmpowerYourLifeClub.com/Christmas
Till next week, take a breath (and a trip to the beach) and remind yourself of what this season is about. Whatever your take on the reason for the season - it’s surely not about last minute meetings, stress OR road rage!
When we can imagine a goal, visualize taking the steps necessary to gain that goal, a part of the Limbic system of the brain called the Reticular Activating system takes over and we guides us to do what it takes to achieve the desired result. The Reticular Activating System is the attention center in the brain. It is the key to “turning on your brain,” and seems to be the center of motivation. The Reticular Activating System is connected at its base to the spinal cord where it receives information projected directly from the ascending sensory tracts. The brain stem reticular formation runs all the way up to the mid brain. As a result, the Reticular Activating System is a very complex collection of neurons, which serve as a point of convergence for signals from the external world and from interior environment. In other words, it is the part of your brain where the world outside of you, and your thoughts and feelings from “inside” of you, meet.
Professional athletes have known this for years, and we know that our clients will continue to attract conditions and situations that are in harmony with their thinking. It is important that what is NOT wanted be avoided in thinking. What our minds can imagine, our bodies can produce, both positive AND negative. Take time to examine your self-talk, is it filled with negative words such as “try”, “should” “can’t”? If so, consider changes in your language patterns to develop a positive outlook, imagine the results and watch yourself take the steps to achieve them. Do yourself a favor; take moment and “RAISE YOUR RETICULAR”!!!
Reference: Eight Laws Of Mind and Thought That Affect Change
Ron Stubbs August 2002
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After a number of weeks of not writing, I feel I owe you an explanation. See, my Father-in-law passed away 6weeks ago which caused me to take some time out with the family. What I also have done is re-evaluate my life, and look at where I’m spending my time. A funeral so close is always a reminder to us that life is short, and to use our time in the best way we can.
Here’s a quick 1min video I shot for you
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Have a fabulous weekend
No matter what kind of income you’re on, or how much time you have, a few key wealth creation principals consistently applied will deliver outstanding results. It will shock you with it’s simplicity, and you’ll wonder “why isn’t everyone doing this?”
Well, I could run a 3day workshop on why they’re not doing it, but for now, sink your teeth into the gold nuggets of information available to you this week, and get the results you know are within your grasp.
Here’s this weeks video;
Have a fabulous week
My clients have been asking me lately, how do I keep myself doing the things I know I should be doing? I start a good exercise routine, I start getting results, then I get slack again.
I shot a quick video for you on my morning walk with the tips that help me;
Hope that helps you get your goals sooner. Till next week.
Why? you ask, well, Geoff & I celebrated 10yrs married last month, and we thought, “what a great opportunity to put on our wedding dress and go to a muddy creek for a mud fight”. Well, maybe it didn’t go exactly like that, but you can see all the photos and more in this weeks newsletter…
Overcoming Fear & Anxiety is a tough call, especially when we’ve held onto the fear for so long. Paul Blackburn from Beyond Success gives you tools that you can use to coach yourself through the release of those fears.
So, out of the chookyard, I talk to you about the guy who know’s his stuff in breaking through our own self imposed limitations.
If you have trouble viewing the video above, click on this link; Overcoming Fear & Anxiety
See you next week
Today, I come to you from the chookyard… why am I hanging out with chooks you ask? Well, around 10years ago, I heard a very powerful, and very relevant statement explaining why we stay stuck where we are.
What are the circumstances you see around you? Are they positive? Do the people you hang around have a positive mindset & expectation? How is their language? Not how clean is it, but do they speak using words of limitation or lack, or is there a sense of abundance and plenty?
Does it really make a difference who we hang around?
Watch this weeks video to find out what I’m doing sitting at a chookyard, what all this means and why I want you to join me next weekend in hanging out with some eagles.
If you have trouble viewing the above video, click this link; Chookyard Shelley
See you next week